Plant intentions, not resolutions.
I was about to teach a yoga class, and I saw this quote from Mark Groves (@createthelove):
"Please make sure that wherever you're at in your life, you don't treat it like a transitory period [...] There is nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. While it is important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don't neglect the present because that is where you are now and its your now that determines your future."
Let me repeat those amazing words one more time, IT IS YOUR NOW THAT DETERMINES YOUR FUTURE. Intentions are endless opportunities to show up in the present moment. Resolutions are constructs of the mind and they tend be fixated in the future. By virtue of their nature, they pull you out of the present moment and ultimately disempower you when you fail to complete them on a daily, weekly or monthly basis.
An example of a resolution, "I want to be more organized this year and clean out my closet once a month."
Intentions on the other hand or - “Sankalpa—the Sanskrit word for intention—is generated for your soul’s growth. A good intention nurtures your consciousness and has the power to significantly raise your awareness. When you set an intention, you don’t have to worry about your actions. A righteous intention creates a righteous action.”
An example of an intention, "I want to cultivate an intentional space that inspires productivity and restoration" OR "I want to find clarity and ease in my day to day routine."
SEE THE DIFFERENCE?! With resolutions, you set all these goals, but the thing is, life is unpredictable, shit happens. And when you fall off track (which is just how life goes), you beat yourself up and tend to just throw the resolutions out the window. But it doesn't have to be this way!
Instead, set an intention, and because they are fluid by nature, it can ebb and flow with you as life unfolds. It is the act of continuously coming back to that intention which allows you to continuously integrate it into your daily life.
Let me give you an example, I set an intention for 2018 to get uncomfortable, and the main way I wanted to do that, was to travel on my own. In January 2018, I booked my first solo trip to Costa Rica, and it changed my life. Later that year, I traveled to Bali solo. I didn’t set a resolution to travel two twice by myself last year. I set an intention to get uncomfortable, and travel somewhere solo. I had no idea where I would end up, or why. I just kept asking the universe, to guide me with the intention of solo travel in my heart. I had no idea where I would end up, or why. I just kept asking the universe to guide me with the intention of stepping out of my comfort zone and experiencing new places.
So join me in planting intentions this year, literally!
Step 1: Grab and pen and paper and set it down next to you. Take a seat and take three deep breaths. Really feel the breath enter your body.
Step 2: Write down how you want to feel. Keep it pretty general.
Step 3: Extract intentions from those feelings. For example, “More time in nature” “Quality time with my significant other” “Travel alone and have an eye opening experience”
Step 4: Go get your plant! Then give it a name. Naming it deepens your relationship with it.
Step 5: Take a moment and commit to nurturing your intentions throughout the course of this year via your relationship with your new plant.
Step 6 (optional): Read your intentions out loud to your new plant,
Step 7: Store your intentions in a specific and memorable place. Check in with them every couple of months.
Finally, watch your intentions GROW!