Perspective: How we respond to what is

Perspective: a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.


A year ago I borrowed the book Loving What Is, by Byron Katie from a friend. Almost immediately after I began reading it, I set the book back down. Admittedly, I was a little intimidated by it’s heavy use of dialogue and since then it’s been sitting on my bookshelf.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, I unexpectedly felt called to it and decided to give it another try. This time it was an entirely different reading experience. I think it can be attributed to a number of reasons, none of them more likely than I probably just needed a reality check. This book did just that.

Loving What Is reminded me that often times we are odds with what is actually happening in reality. In many instances, we ignore the reality of the circumstances of our lives. We make up stories that make situations about us, when truthfully, it just is. What matters more is how we respond to what is. When something really uncomfortable happens to us or persists in our spaces we might struggle to accept it as a reality. We tell ourselves stories that supply our distress with false rationale and excuses. We might tell ourselves that we can’t make edits to closets because there isn’t enough time. Or we might resort to apathy when a project feels too big or unmanageable.

Katie uses the following statements with her client’s to embrace discomfort and shift perspective:

“I am willing to (fill in the blank)” → I am willing to edit my closet.

“I look forward to (fill in the blank)” → I look forward to editing my closet.

For many of my clients, they struggle to accept their role in the way their spaces look and feel. The reality is this: your space, like you, is ever-changing. It ebbs and flows with you. - and it will continue to transform as long as you continue to put in the work.

You have time. You care about how your space looks and feels. I invite you to use Katie’s statements above to shift your perspective and start acting like it.